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Hi.

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I write about a mish-mash of things, whatever takes my fancy, when it takes my fancy. I am working on consistency though… 2022 is my year, right!

I don’t think I’m anyone special, I do love a good story though.
I firmly believe we all have various chapters in our lives that we progress through. We can’t skip pages, each one we turn reveals something new.

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I try to read a lot, usually have music in the background, and I’ll break into spontaneous dance if the song is a good one.

I practice what I preach: kindness and coming from a place of love. I’m a gentle soul for the most part, working on self love, healing, and growth.

I’ve removed a lot of content from over the years giving the website a refresh, keeping things relevant, and building upon new knowledge and experiences

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Thank you.

1st Performance Night for 2014

1st Performance Night for 2014

Myt pole studio held it's first performance night for 2014 and it was a great way to end the first term of the year.

The theme was... Once Upon a Pole Gym. So there were fairy tale characters, evil villains, fairies, and then there were the normal people.

At first I wasn't performing. I'd only done the lap dance short course on offer this term. Elbow still not doing what I want it to do, when I want it, so Lap dance was my only off-pole option.

Anyway, the gorgeous Miss Tara put it out there to see who'd be interested in performing.

Performing a lap dance.

A lap dance in front of a room full of strangers.

In front of people you've never met.

In front of people who don't know you.

Lap dance.

I looked around and people were looking at me, I didn't know why?

Then I saw my arm up in the air and heard my own voice chiming in with "Oh sure, I'll do it", you know all casual like. Because this is something I do all the time, dancing suggestively and provocatively in front of complete strangers... not.

So the deal was done. Brain didn't need to be involved in this one at all... is that anything new really.

I'd already decided I was going as Red Riding Hood (let's just remove the 'little' part, I'm not), had my costume sorted for a while. I thought it was cute and so versatile too. Should I need to be a beer wench, or maiden, then cape off and other accessories in lieu. Curiously though I chose ANOTHER costume with a cape... what can that mean?

I had the white wicker basket too, forgot to get a pic with it...

I had the white wicker basket too, forgot to get a pic with it...

The run sheet was good. I love the instructors always start the night off. I know the new ladies find it reassuring and sort of settling for the nerves. Once you get your first performance out of the way, the confidence you gain, well unless your an attention tart like me, it really does make doing it again and again so rewarding.

Level ones then got to show what they've learned and they were great!

I don't remember being that confident when I started. Then we followed through the levels until we got to Lap Dance. I changed the performance before and was just in my black tank and black poling shorts.

A warning about the suggestiveness of the dance was given and anyone with younger children, or who may feel uncomfortable was given enough time to leave if they'd prefer. During this time we moved the chairs in to place and pillows with blown up pictures of our celebrity crushes were placed on them. There was much giggling when people saw 'who' we would be performing our lap dance to. It was a great way to release any tension the audience may have been feeling and make every one relaxed and just enjoy the performance for performance sake.

I gave this pillow the BEST lap dance :)

I gave this pillow the BEST lap dance :)

We grabbed our spots, I wasn't in my usual spot I was up near the wall. Oh no, I wasn't prepared for the cramped space. I think at one stage while doing a sexy slide on the floor my foot may have connected with Miss Tara's face. She performed on like a trooper and afterwards I was on such an adrenaline rush I didn't think to ask if she was okay until now as I type it and recall it.

Working it for the pillow!

Working it for the pillow!

All too soon it was over. Gyrating away to Bon Jovi's Bad Medicine was done and the audience were very generous in their applause. It was wonderful.

I then watched my old group, who were all now level four pole dancers. They were incredible. ALL of them inverted! I was so unbelievably proud. They've done such a great job and should all be so happy with themselves. I know I was for them. Not bittersweet any more. I'll get there, it's just going to be a bit longer for me. Until then I shall be the queen of the lap/chair dance and I shall thrust, gyrate, body roll, and hip swivel for all I'm worth... and be damn hot and sexy as while doing it too.

All too soon the night was over. I sang my lungs out on the trip home. I had a great night and a great catch up with the girls.

A quick shower, a retell of the evening to the family and then it was time for bed.

Oh, and I was pleasantly surprised when I found my daughter had put my pillow on my bed.

Here's the happy snap she took... I do look very happy don't I.

Performance nights will now run every second term, so 12 weeks apart from now on.

The only good thing about that is it gives more time to find/make/create awesome costumes. I'm already hoping there will be another off-pole short course at the studio this term.

And yes I think I'll always put my hand up to perform, I love it. Attention tart I know, but waiting twelve weeks in between I'll just have to find a way to cope I suppose.

Don't worry, you'll get to read about it.

Pole and Aerial All Stars 2014

Pole and Aerial All Stars 2014

Pole Celebrity - Enchanted

Pole Celebrity - Enchanted